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Wardrobe Woes

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Eid is over. And I didn’t blog on here, even once. Maybe I will come back to write about our Eid and my 10 days holiday another time, or maybe I won’t, but right now I am in a wardrobe dilemma. Not really! Honestly speaking I’m quite excited. 

We live in a two bedroom apartment. Me, my husband and my two kids. My mother in law lives with us too. At least, half the year, she does. The other half, she stays in Pakistan. So all four of us live in one bedroom and Mil lives in the second one. Hence, our closet space was getting to be too small for us so we decided to replace the old one. 

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We got a new one today. Not a new one, we got it second hand and we couldn’t find one large one ,so we got 3 two-door wardrobes. The guys from the place where we got it will bring it over to install it and they also agreed to put in extra shelves. We need about as much shelfing space as we need, hanging.

Initially, I thought we’d put up all shelves in one of them, all hanging in the second and half shelving, half hanging in the third one. Now I think we should put half shelving half hanging in each, and divide the closets as in one for me, one for hubby and the third one for kids. Sigh! I hate making decisions. 

What would you do? 

Sunday is Monday: Daily Look

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July 13

That’s me this morning. I love my white jacket! The skirt is a very old one which I took out after ages!

I badly need some colorful shoes!

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In the UAE, Sunday is Monday! And seriously in Ramadaan, the first day of the week is pure torture. The kids are on summer vacation and they tend to stay up still late. Both of them can’t sleep on their own, I have to sit and watch till they fall asleep. My  7 years old is getting better but the Princess still takes more than an hour to fall asleep. By the time, they are down it’s usually around mid night and then I have to be up for sahoor at 3:30 again! And guess what I rarely get any sleep between 12 and 3! Why? Coz of staying thirsty all day, I can’t help but keep on drinking water after Iftaar and when it’s time to go to bed, the loo keeps calling! Sigh. Same story repeats after Sahoor (The morning meal). Going back to sleep after Fajr (the morning prayers) at 4:30 isn’t that hard, but staying asleep is! And then the alarm rings at 7:30, I keep on snoozing it till 8:30 and am always late for work during Ramadaan!!!

My mom came over last month, because my babysitter quit without a notice and I had no one to watch the kids while I and DH were at work. I’m sad that the month has ended so soon, my mom leaves tomorrow morning. I’m going to miss her big time.

MiL will arrive the next day; At least that’s a solace, the kids won’t feel my mom’s absence too much. But I will. Don’t get me wrong. I love my MiL but having my own mother is totally different!! Sigh.

 

 

Succumbing to Domestic Help!

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I don’t know, but for some reason, the thought of getting domestic help made me feel inadequate.

I see women all around me juggling everything, perfectly!

Working full-time, demanding jobs, sometimes with long commutes…

Raising a bunch of perfect kids… you know perfect kids, the kind that are always well mannered, eat healthy food, indulge in healthy activities, bring home a report card with straight A’s and on top of everything these kids always wear perfectly coordinated outfits….

These women… they houses are as perfect as they are… clean, no clutter in site, organized, decorated for every occasion.. like even Ramadaan has its own custom home decor… sigh.

On top of that they have excellent culinary skills. And they love to post pictures of the iftaari’s they prepare everyday on their blogs and facebook. I mean, after their full time jobs, with an our of commute, all the cleaning and cooking, they still find time for blogging and facebook? How?

Well anyways, they make me feel inadequate! I tried… I tried hard to get my act together. To be the perfect mom! Never to scream, to stay composed, to keep the house clean, to cook healthy meals, and to instill good eating and social habits in my kids. Many a times I felt like a failure. Especially when it came to the household stuff. I suck at that, I totally do. So finally I gave in and called up a domestic help agency. The newly hired maid was supposed to arrive today at 9:00 am. I left for work at 9:20, but no sign of her. An hour later my mom called me at work saying the maid has arrived but she is complaining that its too hot in the kitchen! I don’t have air-conditioning in my kitchen!!!! But damn! I work in that kitchen, the maid can manage too right?

Sigh! I hope the domestic help trial goes well and makes life easier for me!

 

Final Hindrance Withdrawn..

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The Mister has, now, been in the UAE for almost 9 months. (We missed out on enough time to make one more baby). We were supposed to follow 6 months later, but were stalled by several reasons. One thing came up after another and the final issue was The Mother’s residents visa. The UAE isn’t giving out parents ‘ residents visas till Eid, which is in September, so The Mister finally got her a 90 days visit visa. The approval for the 90 days visa came today and if everything goes as planned we will be flying on the 25th of this month inshallah, which is exactly 8 days from today.

*panic*

Yes panic, because there is so much to do and so little time! But I’ll focus on those later. I’d rather first elaborate on how the move came about. If you are not interested in knowing the details for our decision to move, skip the next few paraghraphs.

The Mister had a work-at-home kind of job, with an American Company. He was their sole representative in Pakistan. A good job, good enough pay and ample time to spend with family but there were issues every month with delayed salary, among other and the final straw was when they stalled his salary, when a Pakistani customer failed to pay their dues. He definitely was responsible for collecting the payment, but the company was a little unfair in withholding his salary for almost two months. The Mister resigned and was jobless for a few months.

The job situation in Pakistan is definitely at its worst at present, due to several reasons. The top most being the law and order situation which I believe is closely followed by the global financial crisis.

Anyways, The Mister, got an offer from a Pakistani Company based on the UAE. The remuneration offered wasn’t what we would have liked, but it was better than nothing. Plus it gave us a chance to take our kids to a safer place, where I won’t worry my heart out when my pre-schooler is at pre-school and a bomb blasts somewhere in the city. So we took it up.

I had a small home based business, where I designed and got clothes made mostly for overseas Pakistanis. Little did I know, that soon, I’d be one of them too. I had to say goodbye to it. That’s one thing I’m going to miss a lot. I loved my work, though it was super tiring and very time consuming, but apart from the monetary benefits, it also gave me a sense of achievement, which I’d never experienced in my 9 – 5 jobs. Here’s a link to my Facebook page, if interested in seeing my work:

http://www.facebook.com/pakistanfashion

Things are now going to be different. We will be living in a better place but on much less than what we are used to. We’ll be living in a two bedroom apartment where one bedroom goes to The Mother and I, The Mister and the Miniatures live in the Master bedroom. I am thinking of using a room separator for some “US TIME” 🙂

I’ll be looking for a job…. again. I would definitely prefer a Part-time or Work-at-home, even if it doesn’t pay much, because I would like to be with The Miniatures as much as possible. Also, I can leave The Princess with the The Mother, but The Mother has literally no patience with The Spirited. He needs me more than his younger sister.

Things I need to get done in the Next 8 Days:

  1. The hardest for me: The spirited has his second proper dentist appointment, scheduled for this Tuesday. He has to get two cavities filled in. He already had his front teeth done last Saturday. The front teeth weren’t that bad. We got it done with a few tears, but the morals worry me. I really hope it goes well and both teeth are done the same day.
  2. Princess Vaccination Card: On our last Ped visit, I forgot to take The Princess’ vaccination card with me. I blame my Mommy Brains for that. She got her shots and the ped asked me to take the vaccination card to him to get it signed. It’s been two months and I still haven’t gotten it signed.
  3. Vaccinations for Princess: I just realized it’s not just the card. The last time we were there, we were supposed to move in a weeks time but were stalled. Her next vaccinations are due in August. I think we can get those done a week earlier, before we leave.
  4. Get myself an extra pair of specs
  5. Extra pair of contact lenses
  6. Finish packing
  7. Give away everything that I’v put in bags and marked Give Away
  8. Call Dad and let him know of our schedule
  9. Return borrowed books
  10. Give away books I can’t take along *sniff* *sniff*
  11. Buy medicine I’ll be needing for the kids. I’v been told Meds are expensive over there, so I should take along the necessary staples
  12. See my OB and a dermatologist for certain issues.
  13. Call The Spirit’s Ped and ask her if we can get his vaccination earlier too
  14. There’s so much more, which I can’t think of
Probably this was one long boring entry, but I had to put that in writing, for my own self atleast 🙂

Inshallah, I’ll be back with more interesting stuff, later.

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